Trying For A Baby

Advice about trying for a baby, including planning a pregnancy and LGBT+ routes into parenthood.
Being Pregnant
Trying to get pregnant
Pregnancy happens when sperm enters a vagina, travels through the cervix and womb to the fallopian tube and fertilises an egg.
You’re more likely to get pregnant around the time you are ovulating. This is when an egg becomes ready and you are at your most fertile.
If you are under 40 and have regular sex without using contraception, there is an 8 in 10 chance you will get pregnant within 1 year.
How to increase your chances of getting pregnant
There are things you and your partner can do to increase the chances of getting pregnant.
Do:
have sex every 2 to 3 days without using contraception – make sure sperm enters the vagina
try to have sex around the time you are ovulating – this is usually 12 to 16 days before your period starts
try to maintain a healthy weight, cut down or stop drinking alcohol and do not smoke – it can help if your partner does this too
See a GP if:
- you have been trying to get pregnant for over 1 year
- you have a long term condition such as diabetes and want advice about pregnancy
- there is a risk of passing on a condition such as sickle cell disease to your baby
- you regularly take medicines and want to get pregnant – some medicines can affect a pregnancy
- you are aged 36 and over and want to get pregnant
Having a baby if you are LGBT+
The number of LGBT+ people becoming parents is increasing.
If you're thinking about having children, here's an overview of the various routes to parenthood available to you.
Donor insemination
This is where donated sperm is put inside the person who is going to carry the baby. This person can be single or in a relationship.
Donor insemination can be performed at home using sperm from a friend or an anonymous donor, or at a fertility clinic using an anonymous donor.
If you decide to look for donor insemination, it's better to go to a licensed clinic where the sperm is screened. This ensures that the sperm is free from sexually transmitted infections and certain genetic disorders. Fertility clinics also have support and legal advice on hand.
Lesbian couples who are civil partners at the time of conception and conceive a child through donor insemination – either at a licensed clinic or by private arrangement at home – are both treated as their child's legal parents.
Couples who are not civil partners at the time of conception but who conceive through donor insemination at a licensed clinic will also be treated as their child's legal parents.
But when non-civil partners conceive through donor insemination by private arrangement at home, the non-birth mother has no legal parenthood and will have to adopt the child to obtain parental rights.
For more information:
Co-parenting
This is when 2 or more people team up to conceive and parent children together. Co-parenting arrangements can be made between 2 single people, a single person and a couple, or 2 couples.
As a co-parent, you will not have sole custody of the child. It's advisable to get legal advice at an early stage of your planning.
There are many details to be worked out, such as what role each parent will take, how financial costs will be split, and the degree of involvement each will have with the child.
For more information, read about co-parenting on the Stonewall website.
Adoption or fostering for LGBT+ couples
LGBT+ couples in the UK can adopt or foster a child together. You can apply to adopt or foster through a local authority, or an adoption or foster agency. You do not have to live in the local authority you apply to.
You will have to complete an assessment to become an adoptive or foster parent, with the help of a social worker and preparation training.
For more information, visit New Family Social, the charity for LGBT+ adoptive and foster parents.
Find out more about adopting a child.
If you feel ready to adopt, find an adoption agency near you using the First4Adoption agency finder.
Surrogacy
Surrogacy is when someone has a baby for a couple who cannot have a child themselves. For the intended father, surrogacy can be a route to having a child biologically related to them.
Surrogacy is legal in the UK, but it's illegal to advertise for surrogates. No financial benefit other than reasonable expenses can be paid to the surrogate.
The baby is not legally yours until a parental order has been issued after the child's birth. Until this order is issued the surrogate has the right to keep the baby.
For more information:
Trans and non-binary parents
When it comes to adoption and fostering, trans people have the same rights as anyone else who wants to be a parent.
If you're considering starting treatment to physically alter your body or you've already started treatment, find out about the options for preserving your fertility from the Human Fertilisation and Embryology Authority.
Getting pregnant if you have a mental health condition
If you have a mental health condition, or did in the past, being pregnant can make you unwell again.
Severe mental health conditions such as psychosis, schizophrenia or bipolar disorder are more likely to make you unwell again.
Everyone’s mental health journey is different, but whatever happens, you will have a team of people supporting you. This may include midwives, GPs and mental health specialists.
Speak to a GP:
- if you have a mental health condition and are worried about getting pregnant
- if you’re taking medicine for a mental health condition and you want to get pregnant
Treatment
The 2 types of treatment for mental health problems in pregnancy are talking therapies and medicine.
If you take medicine while you’re pregnant your doctor will explain how this may affect your baby. Try not to worry – you’ll be offered the safest medicine at the lowest dose that will still work.
Further support
- Mental health in pregnancy
- Tommy’s: mental health before, during and after pregnancy
- Mind: postnatal depression and perinatal mental health
- NICE: Questions to ask about mental health problems in pregnancy has some ideas about questions to ask your GP or midwife
Planning your pregnancy
You can improve your chances of getting pregnant and having a healthy pregnancy by following the steps on this page.
Take a folic acid supplement
It's recommended that you should take a daily supplement of folic acid when you're pregnant, or there's a chance you might get pregnant.
You should take a 400 microgram supplement of folic acid every day before you get pregnant, and every day afterwards, up until you're 12 weeks pregnant.
A microgram is 1,000 times smaller than a milligram (mg). The word microgram is sometimes written with the Greek symbol μ followed by the letter g (μg).
Folic acid reduces the risk of your baby having a neural tube defect, such as spina bifida.
A neural tube defect is when the foetus's spinal cord (part of the body's nervous system) does not form normally.
You might be advised to take a higher dose supplement of 5 milligram (5mg) every day.
You may need to take a 5mg supplement of folic acid if:
- you or the baby's other biological parent have a neural tube defect
- you previously had a pregnancy affected by a neural tube defect
- you or the baby's other biological parent have a family history of neural tube defects
- you have diabetes
- you take anti-epilepsy medicine
Talk to a GP if you think you need a 5mg dose of folic acid, as they can prescribe a higher dose.
You can get folic acid tablets at pharmacies, or talk to a GP about getting a prescription.
Do not worry if you get pregnant unexpectedly and were not taking a folic acid supplement at the time. Start taking them as soon as you find out, until you're past the first 12 weeks of pregnancy.
Stop smoking
Smoking during pregnancy has been linked to a variety of health problems, including:
- premature birth
- low birth weight
- sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS), also known as cot death
- miscarriage
- breathing problems or wheezing in the first 6 months of life
Quitting can be hard, no matter how much you want to, but support is available.
NHS Smokefree offers free help, support and advice on stopping smoking, including when you're pregnant, and can give you details of local support services.
Smoke from other people's cigarettes can damage your baby, so ask your partner, friends and family not to smoke near you.
Cut out alcohol
Do not drink alcohol if you're pregnant or trying to get pregnant. Alcohol can be passed to your unborn baby.
Drinking in pregnancy can lead to long-term harm to your baby, and the more you drink, the greater the risk.
Find out about alcohol and pregnancy, alcohol units and tips for cutting down.
Keep to a healthy weight
If you're overweight, you may have problems getting pregnant and fertility treatment is less likely to work.
Being overweight (having a BMI over 25) or obese (having a BMI over 30) also raises the risk of some pregnancy problems, such as high blood pressure, deep vein thrombosis, miscarriage and gestational diabetes.
Before you get pregnant you can use the BMI healthy weight calculator to find out your BMI. But this may not be accurate once you're pregnant, so consult your midwife or doctor.
Having a healthy diet and doing moderate exercise are advised in pregnancy, and it's important not to gain too much weight.
You can keep to a healthy weight by having a balanced diet and doing regular exercise.
Know which medicines you can take
Not all medicines are safe to take when you're pregnant or planning a pregnancy, whether they're on prescription or medicines you can buy in a pharmacy or shop.
Information:
If you take prescribed medicine and you're planning to get pregnant, talk to a doctor.
Do not stop taking your medicine without talking to a doctor.
Find out about medicines in pregnancy.
Vaccinations and infections
Some infections, such as rubella (German measles), can harm your baby if you catch them during pregnancy.
Most people in the UK are immune to rubella, thanks to the uptake of the measles, mumps and rubella (MMR) vaccination.
If you have not had 2 doses of the MMR vaccine, or you're not sure if you have, ask your GP surgery to check your vaccination history.
If you have not had both doses or there's no record available, you can have the vaccinations at your GP surgery.
You should avoid getting pregnant for 1 month after having the MMR vaccination, which means you'll need a reliable method of contraception.
Talk to a doctor if you have a long-term condition
If you have a long-term condition, such as epilepsy or diabetes, it could affect the decisions you make about your pregnancy – for example, where you might want to give birth.
Before you get pregnant, have a discussion with your specialist or a GP about getting pregnant.
If you're taking medicine for a condition, do not stop taking it without talking to a doctor.
Testing for sickle cell and thalassaemia
Sickle cell disease (SCD) and thalassaemia are inherited blood disorders that mainly affect people whose ancestors come from Africa, the Caribbean, the Mediterranean, India, Pakistan, south and Southeast Asia, and the Middle East.
If you are pregnant and live in England you will be offered screening tests for these disorders, but you do not have to wait until you're pregnant before you have a test.
If you or your partner are concerned you may be a carrier for 1 of these disorders, perhaps because someone in your family has a blood disorder or is a carrier, it's a good idea to get tested before starting a family.
You can ask for a free blood test from either a GP or a local sickle cell and thalassaemia centre.
Find out more about screening for sickle cell and thalassaemia in pregnancy
Doing a pregnancy test
If you have missed a period and recently had unprotected sex, you may be pregnant. Pregnancy tests are most reliable from the first day of your missed period.
When you can do a pregnancy test
You can carry out most pregnancy tests from the first day of a missed period. If you don't know when your next period is due, do the test at least 21 days after you last had unprotected sex.
Some very sensitive pregnancy tests can be used even before you miss a period.
You can do a pregnancy test on a sample of urine collected at any time of the day. It doesn't have to be in the morning.
Where you can get a pregnancy test
You can buy pregnancy testing kits from pharmacists and some supermarkets. They can give a quick result and you can do the test in private.
The following places provide free pregnancy tests:
- sexual health services
- some young people's services – call the national sexual health helpline on 0300 123 7123 for details
- Brook centres for under-25s – find your nearest Brook centre
You may also be able to get a pregnancy test free of charge from your GP.
How does a pregnancy test work?
All pregnancy tests detect the hormone human chorionic gonadotrophin (hCG), which starts to be produced around 6 days after fertilisation.
Most pregnancy tests come in a box that contains 1 or 2 long sticks. You pee on the stick and the result appears on the stick after a few minutes. All tests are slightly different, so always check the instructions.
Pregnancy test results
Home pregnancy tests are accurate as long as you follow the instructions correctly.
A positive test result is almost certainly correct. However, a negative test result is less reliable.
The result may not be reliable if you:
- do not follow the instructions properly
- take the test too early
Some medicines can also affect the results.
If you get a negative result and still think you're pregnant, wait a few days and try again. Speak to your GP if you get a negative result after a second test but your period has not arrived.
Continuing with the pregnancy
If you're pregnant and want to continue with the pregnancy, contact your GP or a midwife to start your antenatal care. You can use the pregnancy due date calculator to work out when your baby is due.
If you're not sure you want to be pregnant
If you're not sure about continuing with the pregnancy, you can discuss this confidentially with a healthcare professional. Your options are:
- continuing with the pregnancy and keeping the baby
- having an abortion
- continuing with the pregnancy and having the baby adopted
As well as a GP or a nurse at your GP surgery, you can also get accurate, confidential information – from the age of 13 – from the following:
- sexual health services
- the MSI Reproductive Choices website
- the British Pregnancy Advisory service website
- the National Unplanned Pregnancy Advisory service website
All these services – including community contraceptive clinics – are confidential. If you're 13 or older, the staff won't tell your parents. They'll encourage you to talk to your parents, but they won't force you.
If you're under 25 and would prefer advice specifically for young people, the sexual health charity Brook provides a range of services for young people. The Brook website contains information on pregnancy choices. You can also use the Ask Brook 24/7 service.
Signs and symptoms of pregnancy
Early signs of pregnancy
If you have a regular monthly menstrual cycle, the earliest and most reliable sign of pregnancy is a missed period.
In the first few weeks of pregnancy you may have a bleed similar to a very light period, with some spotting or only losing a little blood. This is called implantation bleeding.
Every pregnancy is different and not everyone will notice all of these symptoms.
Feeling sick during pregnancy
You may feel sick or be sick. This is commonly known as morning sickness, but it can happen at any time of the day or night.
Morning sickness symptoms usually start when you’re around 4-6 weeks pregnant
If you're being sick all the time and cannot keep anything down, see a GP.
You may have hyperemesis gravidarum, a serious condition in pregnancy that causes severe vomiting and needs treatment.
Feeling tired is common in pregnancy
It's common to feel tired, or even exhausted, during pregnancy, especially during the first 12 weeks or so.
Hormonal changes in your body at this time can make you feel tired, sick, emotional and upset.
Sore breasts in early pregnancy
Your breasts may become larger and feel tender, just as they might do before your period. They may also tingle.
The veins may be more visible, and the nipples may darken and stand out.
Peeing more often suggests pregnancy
You may feel the need to pee more often than usual, including during the night.
Other signs of pregnancy you may notice are:
- constipation
- more vaginal discharge (without any soreness or irritation)
Strange tastes, smells and cravings
During early pregnancy, you may find you no longer like some foods or drinks you used to enjoy.
You might notice:
- a strange taste in your mouth, which some describe as metallic
- you crave new foods
- you lose interest in certain foods or drinks you used to enjoy, such as tea, coffee or fatty food
- you lose interest in smoking
- you have a more sensitive sense of smell than usual – for example, the smell of food or cooking
If you're worried about any symptoms you're having, talk to a GP or your midwife.
If your pregnancy test is negative
A positive test result is almost certainly correct, as long as you have followed the instructions correctly.
A negative result is less reliable. If you get a negative result and still think you may be pregnant, wait a week and try again.
If you're pregnant, use the pregnancy due date calculator to work out when your baby's due.
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How long does it usually take to get pregnant?
It's impossible to say how long it takes to get pregnant because it's different for each woman.
Many factors can affect a couple's chances of conceiving, such as:
- your age
- your general health
- your reproductive health
- how often you have sex
Some women become pregnant quickly, while others take longer. This may be upsetting, but it's normal.
Fertility
Most couples (about 84 out of every 100) will get pregnant within a year if they have regular sex and don't use contraception.
But women become less fertile as they get older. One study found that among couples having regular unprotected sex:
- aged 19 to 26 – 92% will conceive after 1 year and 98% after 2 years
- aged 35 to 39 – 82% will conceive after 1 year and 90% after 2 years
The effect of age on men's fertility is less clear.
What does 'regular sex' mean?
Having regular sex means having sex every 2 to 3 days throughout the month.
Some couples may try to time having sex with when the woman ovulates (releases an egg).
But guidance from the National Institute for Health and Care Excellence (NICE) advises that this can be stressful and it isn't recommended.
Fertility problems
Fertility problems affect 1 in 7 couples in the UK.
Lots of factors can cause fertility problems, including:
- hormonal (endocrine) disorders, such as polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS) and problems with the thyroid or pituitary glands
- physical disorders, such as obesity, anorexia nervosa or excessive exercise
- disorders of the reproductive system, such as infections, blocked fallopian tubes, endometriosis or a low sperm count
Some of these factors affect either women or men. In around 40% of infertile couples, there's a problem with both the man and woman.
The most common cause is ovulation failure (which can be caused by lots of different things) and sperm disorders.
In 25% of couples, fertility problems can't be explained.
Read more detailed information about the causes of infertility.
Getting help
If you have been trying for a baby for 1 to 2 years without success, see your GP for advice.
Further information
Planning another pregnancy
You can increase your chances of getting pregnant again if you are in good health.
It is also important that your partner is healthy. A bad diet, smoking, drinking and unhealthy working conditions can affect the quality of sperm and prevent pregnancy happening.
Folic acid
You should take a 400 microgram folic acid tablet every day while trying to get pregnant up until you're 12 weeks pregnant.
It reduces the risk of having a baby born with defects of the brain, spine or spinal cord, such as spina bifida. You can get these tablets from a supermarket or pharmacist.
It's also good to eat foods that contain this important vitamin. These include leafy green vegetables, and breakfast cereals and breads with added folic acid.
You'll need a bigger dose of folic acid if:
- you or the baby's other biological parent have defects of the brain, spine or spinal cord (these are known as neural tube defects)
- you or the baby's other biological parent have a family history of neural tube defects
- you have had a previous pregnancy that was affected by a neural tube defects
- you have coeliac disease
- you have diabetes
- you take anti-epileptic medicine
- you take anti-retroviral medicine for HIV
- you have a BMI of 30 or over
Ask a GP for advice.
Rubella (german measles) and pregnancy
Rubella is rare nowadays in the UK thanks to the uptake of the measles, mumps and rubella (MMR) vaccination.
But if you get the infection in early pregnancy, it can lead to serious birth defects and miscarriage.
If you're not sure whether you've had 2 doses of the MMR vaccine, ask your GP practice to check.
You can have the vaccinations at your GP practice if you have not had both doses or there's no record available.
You should avoid getting pregnant for 1 month after having the MMR vaccination.
Be aware that the MMR vaccine is not suitable if you are already pregnant.
Diabetes and epilepsy
Talk to your doctor before you try to get pregnant if you have diabetes. You'll need some extra care during pregnancy.
You should also talk to your doctor if you have epilepsy. Some medicines used to treat epilepsy can cause birth defects.
There should be alternative epilepsy medicines that your doctor can recommend.
Mental health and pregnancy
If you previously experienced a mental health condition such as postnatal depression, postpartum psychosis or PTSD, talk to your doctor before you try to get pregnant.
You may have experienced a birth trauma and are anxious about having another baby. Your doctor or midwife will listen to any concerns you have and can personalise your care.
Vaginal birth after caesarean section
If you previously had a caesarean section, it is likely that you can have a vaginal delivery with your next baby.
It partly depends on why you had a caesarean section and how many caesareans you've had. A GP, midwife or obstetrician will be able to advise you.
You'll be advised to have a caesarean with your next baby if you:
- previously had a uterine rupture (a tear in the wall of your womb)
- previously had womb surgery
- have a vertical scar on your uterus
- have placenta praevia (where the neck of the uterus is blocked by the placenta)
After 1 caesarean section, you are likely to go on and have a vaginal delivery with your next pregnancy if the pregnancy is straightforward.
But if problems occur throughout labour, the midwife and obstetrician could advise that you have a caesarean section. This is because of the risk of complications that may arise as a result of previous scarring.
Cervical screening test
If you're due to have a cervical screening (smear) test, you should have this test before you try to get pregnant.
If you're asked to come for a routine smear test while you're pregnant you should tell your GP or clinic you're pregnant. You will usually be advised to reschedule the test for a date around 12 weeks after your baby is born.
You and your partner’s weight and fertility
It can improve your chances of getting pregnant if you and your partner are a healthy weight.
This is particularly important if you or your partner are obese (have a BMI or 30 or more) as this means you're likely to have lower fertility.
Before you get pregnant, you can find out whether you're a healthy weight and get tailored advice with the BMI healthy weight calculator.
Speak to a GP or practice nurse if you need help or advice.
Medicines and drugs while trying
Some medicines can harm your baby if you take them while you're pregnant, while others are safe to take.
If either you or your partner take medicine regularly, talk to your doctor about any possible effects on fertility or pregnancy.
Do this ideally before you start trying for a baby or as soon as you find out you're pregnant.
Check with your doctor, midwife or pharmacist before you take any over-the-counter drugs, including any herbal remedies.
See more about medicines in pregnancy.
Illegal drugs may affect your ability to conceive or the development of your baby if you're pregnant.
For friendly, confidential advice, contact:
- Frank, the drugs information line, on 0300 123 6600
- Narcotics Anonymous on 0300 999 1212
See more about illegal drugs in pregnancy.
Sexually transmitted infections (STIs)
STIs can affect your health and your ability to get pregnant. If there's any chance you or your partner have an STI, it's important to get it diagnosed and treated before you get pregnant.
STIs can be passed on through unprotected sex with an infected person. Some STIs can be passed on from one person to another without penetration.
HIV, hepatitis B and hepatitis C can also be passed on by sharing equipment for injecting drugs, such as needles.
If you're HIV positive, you can pass the virus on to your baby during pregnancy, at birth, or by breastfeeding. See living with HIV to find out more about pregnancy and HIV.
Fertility and where you work
If you or your partner are exposed to X-rays or pesticides where you work, it may affect your fertility.
Talk to a GP if you're concerned. They can advise you about any possible risks to your fertility.
Finding it hard to get pregnant?
It can take a while to get pregnant the second or third time around, even if it happened very quickly the last time.

Information about being pregnant and what to do during pregnancy
Labour And Birth

How to tell if you’re in labour and what happens during labour and birth.
Preparing for the birth
Find out how to get ready for the birth including making a birth plan.
Signs of labour
Read about how to tell if you're in labour.
What happens in labour and birth
After the birth
All you need to know about what happens after the birth.
Pregnancy week-by-week

Find out what to expect from every week of your pregnancy.
1 to 12 weeks pregnant
Find out what to expect from weeks 1 to 12 of your pregnancy.
- You and your pregnancy at 1 to 3 weeks
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13 to 27 weeks pregnant
Find out what to expect from weeks 13 to 27 of your pregnancy.
- You and your baby at 13 weeks pregnant
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28 to 40+ weeks pregnant
Find out what to expect from weeks 28 to 40 and onwards of your pregnancy.
- You and your baby at 28 weeks pregnant
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Pregnancy-related conditions

What to do about common symptoms, complications and existing conditions.
Common symptoms in pregnancy
Find out about common symptoms in pregnancy and what to do about them.
- Common health problems in pregnancy
- Back pain in pregnancy
- Bleeding gums
- Headaches in pregnancy
- Indigestion and heartburn in pregnancy
- Leaking from your nipples
- Nosebleeds in pregnancy
- Pelvic pain in pregnancy
- Piles in pregnancy
- Stomach pain in pregnancy
- Stretch marks in pregnancy
- Swollen ankles, feet and fingers in pregnancy
- Tiredness and sleep problems
- Thrush
- Vaginal bleeding
- Vaginal discharge in pregnancy
- Vomiting and morning sickness
- Weight gain in pregnancy
Pregnancy complications
Read about pregnancy complications and when you should get help.
Existing health conditions
Advice about health conditions you already had before you were pregnant.
Finding out you're pregnant
See a GP or midwife as soon as you find out you're pregnant. It's important to see a midwife or GP as early as possible to get the pregnancy (antenatal) care and information you need to have a healthy pregnancy.
You can find out about local maternity services.
Your pregnancy can be treated confidentially, even if you are under 16. A GP or midwife can tell you about your choices for pregnancy (antenatal) care in your local area. Being pregnant may affect the treatment of any current illness or conditions you have or later develop.
Read about the signs and symptoms of pregnancy and doing a pregnancy test.
Knowing that you're pregnant
When you find out you're pregnant, you may feel happy and excited, or shocked, confused and upset. Everybody is different.
Some of this may be caused by changes in your hormone levels, which can make you feel more emotional.
If you are feeling anxious or worried it will help to talk to someone, read about mental health in pregnancy.
Partners
Partners may also have mixed feelings when they find out you are pregnant. They may find it hard to talk about their feelings because they do not want to upset you. Both of you should encourage each other to talk about your feelings and any worries or concerns.
However you're feeling, contact an NHS professional (such as a midwife, GP or practice nurse) so you can start getting antenatal (pregnancy) care. This is the care that you'll receive leading up to the birth of your baby.
Find out about your schedule of antenatal appointments.
Telling people that you're pregnant
You may want to tell your family and friends immediately, or wait a while until you know how you feel. Or you may want to wait until you have had your first ultrasound scan, when you're around 12 weeks pregnant, before you tell people.
Some of your family or friends may have mixed feelings or react in unexpected ways to your news. You may wish to discuss this with a midwife.
Read about dealing with feelings and relationships in pregnancy.
Flu and pregnancy
The seasonal flu vaccine is offered if you are pregnant and at any stage of pregnancy. If you are pregnant and catch the flu virus, you are at an increased risk of complications and flu-related hospital admissions.
Find out about the flu jab and pregnancy.
Talk to a GP or midwife if you're unsure about which vaccinations you should have.
Further information
You may also find the information from Sex Wise about being pregnant and not knowing what to do is helpful in explaining the choices you have.
Your NHS pregnancy journey
See a midwife or GP as soon as you find out you're pregnant. This is so they can book your pregnancy (antenatal) care and make sure you get all the information and support you need to have a healthy pregnancy.
Your first appointment with a midwife should happen before you're 10 weeks pregnant.
If you're more than 10 weeks pregnant and have not seen a GP or midwife, contact a GP or midwife as soon as possible. They'll see you quickly and help you start your pregnancy (antenatal) care.
What is pregnancy (antenatal) care?
This is the care you have while you're pregnant to make sure you and your baby are as well as possible.
The NHS in England will offer you:
- 10 pregnancy appointments (7 if you've had a child before) to check the health and development of you and your baby
- screening tests to find out the chance of your baby having certain conditions, such as Down's syndrome
- blood tests to check for syphilis, HIV and hepatitis B
- screening for inherited blood disorders (sickle cell and thalassaemia)
You'll be offered more appointments if you or your baby need them.
Depending on your health and where you live, you may see:
- a midwife for all your appointments
- a midwife for some appointments and a GP for others
How do I start my pregnancy care?
As soon as you find out you're pregnant you can book an appointment with:
- local midwife services (find maternity services near you)
Your first midwife appointment
This appointment lasts around an hour.
Your midwife will ask questions to make sure you get the care that's right for you.
They will ask about:
- where you live and who you live with
- your partner, if you have one
- the baby's father
- any other pregnancies or children
- smoking, alcohol and drug use
- your physical and mental health, and any issues or treatment you've had in the past
- any health issues in your family
- your job, if you have one
When and where will my appointments be?
Find out more about when you'll have your antenatal appointments.
Your appointments can take place at:
- your home
- a Children's Centre
- a GP surgery
- a hospital
You'll usually go to the hospital for your pregnancy scans.
What can I do now for me and my baby?
It's important not to miss any of your antenatal appointments. Some of the tests and measurements that can find possible problems have to be done at specific times.
There are also things you can do to keep you and your baby as healthy as possible in pregnancy, including:
- not smoking
- not drinking alcohol
- getting some exercise that's safe in pregnancy
- having a healthy pregnancy diet
- knowing which foods to avoid in pregnancy
- taking a folic acid supplement and thinking about taking a vitamin D supplement
- knowing how to avoid infections that may harm your unborn baby, and symptoms to look out for
- having the flu vaccination
- knowing about baby movements in pregnancy
- knowing how to cope with feelings, worries and relationships in pregnancy
What if I have a health condition?
If you have a health condition, for example diabetes or asthma, these can affect your pregnancy. Pregnancy can also affect any conditions you have.
Information:
Do not stop taking your medicine until you've talked with your doctor.
Your first midwife appointment
As soon as you find out you are pregnant, contact a GP or midwife and they will help you book your first appointment.
Your first midwife appointment (also called the booking appointment) should happen before you're 10 weeks pregnant. This is because you'll be offered some tests that should be done before 10 weeks.
If you're more than 10 weeks pregnant and have not seen a GP or midwife, contact a GP or midwife as soon as possible.
You'll still have your first midwife appointment and start your NHS pregnancy journey.
Where the first appointment happens
Your first appointment may take place in:
- your home
- a hospital
- a GP surgery
- a Children's Centre
Where the appointment happens depends on the pregnancy services in your area.
How long the appointment lasts
The appointment usually takes around an hour.
What your midwife may ask
Your midwife will ask some questions to help find out what care you need.
They may ask about:
- where you live and who you live with
- the baby's father
- any other pregnancies or children
- smoking, alcohol and drug use
- your physical and mental health, and any issues or treatment you've had
- any health issues in your family
- domestic abuse
- female genital mutilation (FGM)
- your job, if you have one
- whether you have people around to help and support you, for example a partner or family members
The first appointment is a chance to tell your midwife if you need help or are worried about anything that might affect your pregnancy. This could include domestic abuse or violence, sexual abuse, or female genital mutilation (FGM).
FGM can cause problems during labour and birth. It's important you tell your midwife or doctor if this has happened to you.
Tests at your first appointment
Your midwife will ask if they can:
- measure your height and weight, and work out your body mass index (BMI)
- measure your blood pressure and test your urine for signs of pre-eclampsia
- take a blood test to see if you have HIV, syphilis or hepatitis B
They'll also offer you a blood test for sickle cell and thalassaemia (blood disorders that can be passed on to the baby) if they think there's a high chance you might have them. They'll work out your chance by asking some questions.
Things your midwife may discuss with you
Your midwife may give you information about:
- how the baby develops during pregnancy
- a healthy pregnancy diet and foods to avoid in pregnancy
- pregnancy exercise and pelvic floor exercises
- your NHS pregnancy (antenatal) care
- breastfeeding
- antenatal classes
- benefits you can get when you're pregnant, such as free prescriptions and free dental care
- your options for where to have your baby
- the tests and scans you'll be offered in pregnancy
Ask questions if you want to know more or do not understand something.
Your maternity notes
At the end of the first appointment, your midwife will give you your maternity notes in a book or a folder.
These notes are a record of your health, appointments and test results in pregnancy. They also have useful phone numbers, for example your maternity unit or midwife team.
You should carry these notes with you all the time until you have your baby. This is so health care staff can read about your pregnancy health if you need urgent medical care.
Health things you should know in pregnancy
There are things you can do, and things you can avoid, to keep you and your baby as healthy as possible in pregnancy.
Go to your pregnancy (antenatal) appointments
It's important not to miss any of your antenatal appointments. These appointments are part of your NHS pregnancy journey.
The tests, scans and checks you'll have help look after the health of you and your baby.
Some of the tests and measurements that can find potential problems have to be done at specific times of pregnancy, which is why you have appointments at certain weeks.
There are also things you can do to keep you and your baby as healthy as possible in pregnancy.
Food
- have a healthy pregnancy diet
- know which foods to avoid in pregnancy
Alcohol
Not smoking
- if you smoke, stop smoking
Vitamins
- take a folic acid supplement and think about taking a vitamin D supplement
Medicines
Not all medicines are safe to take when you're pregnant. This includes prescribed medicines and medicines you can buy in a pharmacy or shop.
Check with a doctor, pharmacist or midwife before you take any medicines when you're pregnant.
If you're already taking prescribed medicine, do not stop taking your medicine without talking to your doctor first.
• find out about medicines in pregnancy
Exercise
- do some safe pregnancy exercise
Protect against getting ill
- know how to avoid infections that may harm your baby and symptoms to look out for
- have the flu vaccination (offered between September and March, and it's free if you're pregnant)
- have the whooping cough vaccination, free if you're pregnant
Baby movements
- know about baby movements in pregnancy, and when to seek help
Your mental wellbeing
- know how to cope with feelings, worries and relationships in pregnancy
- mental health issues in pregnancy
Your dental health
You're entitled to free NHS dental treatment if you're pregnant when you start your treatment and for 12 months after your baby is born. To get free NHS dental treatment, you must have:
- a MATB1 certificate issued by your midwife or GP
- a valid prescription maternity exemption certificate (MatEx)
Sleeping well
- get tips on sleeping well in pregnancy
Travel
- travelling safely in pregnancy, including flying, long journeys and travel vaccinations
DVT (blood clots)
X-rays during pregnancy
For all X-rays, you should let the hospital know if you're pregnant.
X-rays are not usually recommended for pregnant people unless it's an emergency
Cervical screening during pregnancy
You will not usually need to have cervical screening if you're pregnant, or could be pregnant, until at least 12 weeks after you've given birth. This is because pregnancy can make it harder to get clear results.
If you're already pregnant and due for a cervical screening test then tell the GP or clinic.
You will usually be advised to reschedule the test for a date around 12 weeks after your baby is born.
If you've previously had an abnormal result from a cervical screening test, you may need to be screened while you're pregnant. Your GP or midwife may ask you to have a cervical screening test at your first antenatal appointment. This test will not affect your pregnancy.
What if I have a health condition?
If you have a health condition, for example diabetes or asthma, these can affect your pregnancy. Pregnancy can also affect any conditions you have.
Don't stop taking your medicine until you've talked with your doctor.
Your pregnancy to-do list
Stay organised throughout your pregnancy
You can print the list on this page to keep track of things you need to do during your pregnancy, such as book antenatal classes, tell your work you're pregnant and think about where you'd like to have your baby.
⬜ Take a pregnancy test: doing a pregnancy test
⬜ Learn about the benefits you are entitled to: maternity and paternity benefits and leave
⬜ Stay active, start exercising: exercise in pregnancy
⬜ Take folic acid: vitamins, supplements and nutrition in pregnancy
⬜ If you smoke, get help to quit: stop smoking in pregnancy
⬜ Make an appointment to see your midwife or GP: your antenatal care
⬜ Book antenatal classes: antenatal classes
⬜ Claim free milk, fruit and vegetables through Healthy Start: get help to buy food and milk
⬜ Make sure you've been offered all your screening tests: antenatal checks and tests
⬜ Make an appointment to see a dentist: dentists
⬜ Find out about your rights at work: GOV.UK: maternity pay and leave
⬜ Ask to hear your baby's heartbeat: your antenatal care
⬜ Visit the maternity unit you plan to give birth in: where to give birth: the options
⬜ Start buying the things you'll need for your baby: what you'll need for your baby
⬜ Feeling hungry? Stick to a sensible diet: have a healthy diet in pregnancy and foods to avoid in pregnancy
⬜ Start making your birth plan: how to make a birth plan
⬜ Write to your employer 15 weeks before you plan to stop work: GOV.UK: maternity pay and leave
⬜ Claim Maternity Allowance after week 26: GOV.UK: maternity allowance
⬜ See if you're eligible for a Sure Start Maternity Grant: GOV.UK: Sure Start Maternity Grant
⬜ Make sure you know the signs of labour: signs that labour has begun
⬜ Pack a bag ready for labour and birth: pack your bag for labour
⬜ For birth partners, prepare for the birth: tips for your birth partner
⬜ When in labour, phone the maternity unit before leaving home: what happens at the hospital or birth centre
Pregnant with twins
Fertility treatments and the fact pregnancies are happening later in life has made multiple births more common.
Different types of twins
One-third of all twins will be identical and two-thirds non-identical.
Identical twins
Identical (monozygotic) twins happen when a single egg (zygote) is fertilised.
The egg then divides in 2, creating identical twins who share the same genes.
Identical twins are always the same sex, so if your twins are identical, you'll have 2 girls or 2 boys.
Non-identical twins
Non-identical (dizygotic) twins happen when 2 separate eggs are fertilised and then implant into the womb (uterus).
These non-identical twins are no more alike than any other 2 siblings.
Non-identical twins are more common. The babies may be of the same sex or different sexes.
Are you carrying twins?
You might think you're carrying more than 1 baby if:
- you seem bigger than you should be for your dates
- twins run in your family
- you have had fertility treatment
It's usually possible to find out if you're having twins through 12-week scan.
At the scan, you should be told whether the babies share a placenta (meaning they're identical) or if they have 2 separate placentas (meaning they can be identical or not).
If this is not clear from the first scan, you should be offered another one.
What causes twins?
Nobody knows what causes identical (monozygotic) twins. Everyone has the same chance of having identical twins: about 1 in 250.
Identical twins do not run in families. But there are some factors that make having non-identical twins more likely:
- non-identical twins are more common in some ethnic groups, with the highest rate among Nigerians and the lowest among Japanese
- if you’re pregnant and over 35 you’re more likely to have non-identical twins because you’re more likely to release more than 1 egg during ovulation
- non-identical twins run on the mother's side of the family, probably because of an inherited tendency to release more than 1 egg
IVF can increase the chance of twins, as more than 1 embryo may be transferred.
How can I tell if my twins are identical?
The most accurate way to tell if twins are identical is through a DNA test. This can only be done after your babies are born.
The placenta could also provide clues. If your first ultrasound scan is done before 14 weeks, it should be possible to tell accurately what kind of placenta your twins have.
Otherwise, the placenta can be examined after your babies are born.
For more information on this and birth options, read about giving birth to twins.
Read more about the different types of twins on the Twins Trust website.
More detailed information on DNA testing and how to find out whether twins or triplets are identical is available on the Multiple Births Foundation website.
Keeping well in pregnancy
How to look after yourself and your baby while you're pregnant.
- Have a healthy diet in pregnancy
- Foods to avoid in pregnancy
- Vitamins, supplements and nutrition in pregnancy
- Exercise in pregnancy
- Medicines in pregnancy
- Mental health in pregnancy
- Depression in pregnancy
- Sex in pregnancy
- Travelling in pregnancy
- Work and pregnancy
- Your baby's movements
- Reducing the risk of stillbirth
- Drinking alcohol while pregnant
- Stop smoking in pregnancy
- Illegal drugs in pregnancy
- The flu jab in pregnancy
- Whooping cough vaccination in pregnancy
- Infections in pregnancy that may affect your baby
- Vaccinations in pregnancy
Support

Advice for things you might need support with during pregnancy.
Self-Referral to Antenatal clinic
You do not have to see your GP to be referred to an antenatal clinic. To refer yourself, complete the online form:
Your local GP practice or Children’s Centre (check your local council) are able to give details of your local midwifery service and antenatal clinic.